ER BABYEN DIN SPESIELT SENSITIV/ HØYT BEHOV?
Du kan grovt sett skille mellom to sensitive personlighetstyper:
– sensitive ekstroverte (30 %)
– sensitive introverte (70%)
Det sies at hvert femte barn er spesielt sensitivt. Den spesielle sensitiviteten inkluderer ofte søvnproblemer som følge av over- eller understimulering. De spesielt sensitive barna kan ofte bli «for mye å håndtere» med behov for ekstra trygghet og skjerming. Alle babyer med høyt behov er også følsomme i en eller annen grad. Spesiell sensitivitet er ikke en diagnose, men en måte å være i verden på. Med riktig støtte utvikler disse barna seg ofte til fantastiske voksne.
Kilde: Elaine N. Aron
Nedenfor er et utdrag fra familierådgiver Anja Sigvards danske bok "Signalstærke Børn". Hun fokuserer på å beskrive de utadvendte, spesielt sensitive barna, da det ofte er disse barna som krever mye av foreldrene sine. Hun kaller dem «sterke signalbarn».
Barnet er intenst
Barn med sterke signaler kan ofte oppdages helt fra fødselen. De gråter høyt eller ofte og stopper ikke lett. De spiser voldsomt og raskt, er veldig spesifikke i forhold til hvem de ønsker å bli holdt av (ofte er det bare moren). Det er mange ting de ikke liker, og de klager på alt, så du er aldri i tvil. Barnet vil helst ikke gå glipp av noe, så det er veldig vanskelig for dem å legge seg eller slappe av. Barnet blir forstyrret av den minste lyd eller bevegelse, og føler umiddelbart at det må 'være med'. Intensiteten kan vises ved voldsomme følelsesutbrudd, både gjennom glede, tristhet og sinne. Barnet har et svært omfattende følelsesregister som kan svinge dramatisk fra raseri til ekstatisk glede på et øyeblikk og omvendt.
Spiser veldig ofte
En baby med et sterkt signal ønsker å bli ammet ofte og til tider hele tiden klamrer seg til brystet. Det er ikke uvanlig at babyen ammer hver time eller mer de første 3-4 månedene eller mer. Sterkt signalerende barn prøver å finne ro og trygghet når de ammer, men ofte er de alt for voldsomme og melken kommer enten i halsen, barnet svelger for mye luft, eller de klarer ikke å ta tak i brystet kl. alle og skrik i stedet voldsomt i frustrasjon.
Insisterende og utholdende
Det sterkt signalerende barnet er veldig insisterende og tydelig. Det er ingen tålmodighet og barnet blir hysterisk ulykkelig på et brøkdel av et sekund hvis du ikke umiddelbart finner ut av det som er ønsket. Foreldre til disse barna lærer raskt at det ikke lønner seg å somle. Hvis du ikke reagerer umiddelbart, vil barnet opprøre seg selv så mye at det ikke lar seg trøste igjen.
Sterkt signalerende barn slutter ikke å skrike før du finner ut hva det vil, og det vet ikke alltid hva det vil selv, eller du kan ikke finne ut av det, så det kan være litt kaotisk gjetning til tider .
Et sterkt signalerende barn er nesten konstant misfornøyd. Det er alltid noe den vil ha som den ikke kan ha. Det er alltid noe som plager dem litt, det være seg klesmerker, lyder, lyset, gjestene eller å ligge alene.
Ønsker å bli holdt konstant
Barnet har et stort behov for kroppskontakt og gyngebevegelser som minner om tiden i livmoren. Du kan sannsynligvis ikke legge dem fra deg de første månedene av livet. Barnevogner og senger kan derfor utelukkes helt, og det blir ingen hyggelige turer gjennom byen med en sovende baby i vognen.
De vil være nær deg hele tiden. Veldig nærme. En slynge eller bærer blir nesten uunnværlig.
Barnet sover veldig lett og veldig lite
Barnet sover kun en kort periode av gangen og sover generelt mindre, eller oftere men i kortere perioder av gangen enn andre barn. Selv når de sover trenger de nærkontakt og kan derfor ikke sove i egen seng eller i barnevogn.
Barnet våkner ofte selv med sine rykkende arm- og benbevegelser, som også oppstår under søvn. Mange av de sterkt signalerende barna må svøpes for å kunne finne roen.
Å sove på nye steder eller å sove mens du er på besøk kan være en umulighet for barnet. Deres intensitet og utholdenhet kan bety at barnet ikke sovner, eller våkner noen minutter etter at det har sovnet. Et besøk kan bety at barnet er så overstimulert og overtrøtt etterpå at det ikke kan sovne selv etter at du har kommet hjem. Mange foreldre til sterkt signalerende barn gir helt opp å besøke andre.
Ingen faste rutiner
Det er ingenting å komme etter når man har et barn med trong signaler, spesielt det første året er veldig omskiftelig og hektisk. Barnet ombestemmer seg ofte, og det er ingen faste holdepunkter. Det som fungerte i går fungerer kanskje ikke i dag. Dersom barnet i tillegg opplever mye i løpet av dagen, vil det trolig bli enda mer svingende og ustabilt.
Følsom
Barnet opplever alt veldig sterkt. Alle sanser er på overtid. Og også følelsene. De blir derfor lett overstimulert og blir hysteriske eller veldig opprørte. Noen sterkt signalerende babyer takler ikke et besøk fra sykepleieren uten flere timers gråt etterpå. De liker ikke å bli holdt av andre enn mamma og pappa, og de våkner ved den minste lyd eller blir forstyrret av den minste bevegelse. Barnet kan være utrøstelig i timevis etter besøket.
Total utmattelse
Små barn har ingen forståelse for at du er sliten, trenger mat eller noe annet. De sterkt signalerende barna kan derfor ikke forstå at de overbelaster deg når de fortsetter å gråte eller klage. Barnet fortsetter å tappe energien din. Dette er fordi barnet selv synes det er så vanskelig å begrense følelsene sine. Barnet har aldri fred og derfor får du heller ingen - verken natt eller dag.
Anbefalt lesing
Du kan også lese «12 Features of a High Needs Baby» eller «Raising a High Needs Baby» av den amerikanske legen Dr. Sears, som er fremtredende i området for babyer med høye behov.
Ønsker du å lese mer om søvnutfordringer, måter å se babyen din på og situasjonen, vil jeg også anbefale å lese Anja Sigvards artikler om sterkt signalerende barn (kun på dansk).
De spesielt sensitive babyene trenger ekstra tilstedeværelse, trygghet, pauser og forutsigbarhet. Mange har godt av en slyngevugge og eller en vektet sovepose, som kan gi ekstra trygghet ved leggetid.
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