ÄR DIN BEBIS SÄRSKILT KÄNSLIG/HIGH NEED?
Man kan grovt sett skilja mellan två känsliga personlighetstyper:
- känsliga extroverter (30 %)
- känsliga introverter (70 %)
Det sägs att vart femte barn är särskilt känsligt. Denna känslighet innebär ofta sömnproblem som ett resultat av över- eller understimulering. De särskilt känsliga barnen kan ofta bli "för mycket att hantera" med ett behov av extra trygghet och skydd. Alla high need-bebisar är också känsliga i viss utsträckning. Särskild känslighet är ingen diagnos, utan ett sätt att vara i världen. Med rätt stöd utvecklas dessa barn ofta till fantastiska vuxna.
(Källa: Elaine N. Aron)
Nedan är ett utdrag från familjerådgivaren Anja Sigvards danska bok "Signalstærke Børn". Hon fokuserar på att beskriva de extroverta, särskilt känsliga barnen, då det ofta är dessa barn som ställer stora krav på sina föräldrar. Hon kallar dem "signalkraftiga barn".
Barnet är intensivt
Barn med starka signaler kan ofta kännas igen redan från födseln. De skriker högt eller ofta och slutar inte lätt. De äter våldsamt och snabbt, och är väldigt specifika med vem de vill bli hållna av (ofta endast mamman). Det är många saker de inte gillar, och de klagar på allt, så du är aldrig i tvivel. Barnet vill helst inte missa något, så det är mycket svårt för dem att somna eller slappna av. De blir störda av minsta ljud eller rörelse och känner omedelbart att de måste "vara med". Intensiteten kan visa sig genom våldsamma känsloutbrott, både genom glädje, sorg och ilska. Barnet har ett mycket omfattande känsloregister som kan svänga dramatiskt från raseri till extatisk glädje på ett ögonblick och vice versa.
Äter väldigt ofta
En bebis med starka signaler vill bli ammad ofta och ibland konstant vara nära bröstet. Det är inte ovanligt att bebisen ammar varje timme eller mer under de första 3-4 månaderna eller längre. Signalkraftiga barn försöker finna ro och trygghet vid amningen, men ofta är de alltför ivriga och mjölken hamnar i halsen, barnet sväljer för mycket luft eller kan inte ta tag om bröstet och skriker istället våldsamt av frustration.
Krävande och ihärdig
Det signalkraftiga barnet är väldigt krävande och tydligt. Det har ingen tålamod och blir hysteriskt olyckligt på ett ögonblick om du inte omedelbart förstår vad det vill. Föräldrar till dessa barn lär sig snabbt att det inte lönar sig att skjuta upp saker. Om du inte reagerar direkt, kommer barnet att bli så upprört att det inte kan tröstas igen. Dessa barn skriker tills du löser vad de vill ha, och ibland vet de själva inte vad de vill, vilket kan göra situationen kaotisk.
Vill bli hållen konstant
Barnet har ett stort behov av kroppskontakt och gungande rörelser som påminner om tiden i livmodern. Du kanske inte kan sätta ner dem under de första månaderna av deras liv. Vagnar och sängar kan därför uteslutas, och det blir inga mysiga stadsturer med en sovande bebis i vagnen. De vill vara nära dig hela tiden. Mycket nära. En bärsjal eller bärsele blir nästan oumbärlig.
Barnet sover väldigt lätt och väldigt lite
Barnet sover bara korta stunder åt gången och sover generellt sett mindre än andra barn, eller oftare men för kortare perioder. Även när de sover behöver de nära kontakt och kan därför inte sova i sin egen säng eller i vagnen. Många signalkraftiga barn måste bli lindade för att kunna hitta ro. Sömn på nya platser eller att sova under besök kan vara omöjligt för barnet.
Inga fasta rutiner
Det finns inget att följa när du har ett barn med starka signaler. Framförallt det första året är mycket föränderligt och hektiskt. Barnet ändrar sig ofta, och det finns inga fasta referenspunkter. Det som fungerade igår fungerar kanske inte idag.
Känsligt
Barnet upplever allt väldigt starkt. Alla sinnen är på högvarv, även känslorna. De blir därför lätt överstimulerade och hysteriska eller väldigt upprörda. Många signalkraftiga barn klarar inte av att få besök av till exempel barnmorskan utan flera timmars gråt efteråt.
Total utmattning
Små barn förstår inte att du är trött eller behöver mat. De signalkraftiga barnen förstår därför inte att de överbelastar dig när de fortsätter att gråta eller klaga. Barnet dränerar dig på energi eftersom det självt har så svårt att hantera sina känslor.
Rekommenderad läsning
Du kan också läsa "12 Features of a High Needs Baby" eller "Raising a High Needs Baby" av den amerikanska läkaren Dr. Sears, som är framstående inom området för high need-bebisar.
För mer om sömnproblem och hur du kan se på ditt barn och situationen, rekommenderas också att läsa Anja Sigvards artiklar om signalkraftiga barn (på danska).
Särskilt känsliga bebisar behöver extra närvaro, trygghet, pauser och förutsägbarhet. Många har nytta av en bärsele eller en viktad sovsäck som kan ge extra trygghet vid läggdags.
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